I wrote this awhile back and it's still true. I figured I should post it to remind myself :-) So these are my requirements for love. Here goes nothing J
Self-sufficiency is the number one thing on my list. If you are not self-sufficient, I’m not going to waste my time and effort being sufficient for you, nor will I give you direction on how to be self-sufficient. Why so many people lack this drive in life is beyond me. If you don’t take care of yourself, who do you expect to do it? And whoever it is that you expect to do it, what if they die? Are you just doing to die, too? That’s stupid; be a human being and take care of yourself.
The second thing that means a lot to me is self-love. I struggle with this myself, so I can’t go about this the same way I will with self-sufficiency, which is with an iron-clad fist. I’m willing to help someone out if they help me out in this area. But it is my understanding and belief that if a person doesn’t fully love themself, they cannot fully love another person. As I said, this is flexible, as along as the other person understands how important it is to me and to a relationship. Also, it is important in order to overcome obstacles that relationships present, of which there are many.
The third thing that I am looking for is more of an overall thing. While it can pertain to a person, it also pertains to the relationship as a whole; I want each of us to maintain a sense of adventure, both together and apart. I don’t want to melt into one person, I want to maintain individuality. But even doing things apart, I want us to do new things together, often. So with that, we both need to trust each other, which is obviously also important in relationships.
I want to be with someone who can accept me as I am, and also allow for my growth. I also want this person to want to grow as their own person, and to know the true meaning of the word. I want them to be more focused on personal excellence, instead of personal success.
I want this person to want to travel places with me. Or with other couples. Or whatever, I just want to travel and not alone. I want to share the experience with someone. Sense of adventure is important to me. Along with adventure, I want to get a tattoo with them. Ring finger, fuckers.
"Love allows your beloved the freedom to be unlike you. Attachment asks for conformity to your needs and desires.
Love imposes no demands. Attachment expresses an overwhelming demand - 'Make me feel whole.'
Love expands beyond limits of two people. Attachment tries to exclude everything but two people."
Along with: Chopra's The Path to Love on Detachment vs Nonattachment:
"...nonattachment is actually a state of freedom that preserves and even increases your love for another. Detachment is achieved by not caring; nonattachment is achieved by allowing, which shows tremendous care. Therefore the insights that apply to nonattachment carry us deeper into the spiritual importance of letting go.
Attachment is a form of dependency based on ego; love is nonattachment based on spirit.
The more nonattached you are, the more you can truly love.
Action that does not bind come directly from love; all other action comes indirectly from the past.
Struggling with karma will not free you from its binding influence. Freedome can only be achieved by remembering who you really are.
Who you really are is unbounded spirit, beyond the reach of karma".
I want all of these things. And I won’t settle until I have them. And in order to get them, I will put them out so I reflect back what I most desire.
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